Frankly, I’m just embarrassed when I look back on all those times when I used to get so angry… I’m not so angry anymore. In fact, you could say I’m a changed man but there have been times in my life where my outbursts of …
I had only been married to my first husband for less than a year when I taught him it wasn’t safe to be angry. Then, for the next 29 years until we divorced, I wanted him to show me some emotion and he just couldn’t. …
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A little known truth is that as humans, we often tell ourselves lies to make sense of our world and call it reality. We lie to ourselves about people, situations and “the way things are” and call it truth. These “lies” can be just simply …
Unspoken expectations can ruin relationships of all kinds–and we all have them. Here’s how one of our coaching clients uncovered hers and created a deeper connection with someone important to her in the process… Judith was wound up in a tangled web of anger and …
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While we don’t like labels, the term avoider stood out to us when we read a recent question from a reader… Here’s her question (used with her permission)… “So, my husband is now an atheist although he went to seminary years ago. He wants to …
Do you avoid or do you engage when something critical needs to be talked about? Here’s the truth… We tend to put people in categories, groups or turn them into this kind of person or that kind of person as a way to get some …
For a lot of couples, even though there might be love between them, there’s still an underlying tension or distance that seems to always be there. The fights, arguments and disagreements just seem to erupt out of no where and neither person knows how to …
One of the biggest challenges in relationships is always the fact that we’re different from each other–with different beliefs, experiences and ways of doing things. Because of these differences, we can set up expectations of the other people in our lives that make connection, love …
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Most people think that make-or-break moments in relationships and life are always the big “Oh Sh_t” moments… The getting struck by lightning kind of realizations and discussions that rock your world. Make-or-break moments can be those turn-your-world-upside-down kind of events and your response to what …
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No one wants bad relationship advice… It seems to make perfect sense and a no brainer that “talking it over” when there are differences between you and your partner is good advice (especially when you want something to change)… After all, how are you going …
When “Talking it Over” is Bad Relationship Advice… Read More »
