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Even though I don’t consider myself a high drama person–in fact, most of the time, I think I’m pretty steady… I have had moments that I imagine I looked like a critical old, dour, school teacher with a pointy, accusatory finger. I was right–the other […]

During this time of Covid-19 shut-down and re-opening, tempers are flaring. A friend was standing in line waiting to get into a store in 90 degree heat and two people started shouting over one of them getting too close and not wearing a mask. People

She called them the “whiny boys” and my wife Susie is finally warming up to them after all these years. What gives? How did I get her to see rock bands from the 70s and 80s like Boston, Journey, Foreigner and REO Speedwagon with new

During this health crisis, most of us have been told to shelter in place, hunker down and stay home…. While this is a wise move to halt the spread of the virus… Being in close quarters with your loved ones can be challenging, to say

I had only been married to my first husband for less than a year when I taught him it wasn’t safe to be angry. Then, for the next 29 years until we divorced, I wanted him to show me some emotion and he just couldn’t.

A little known truth is that as humans, we often tell ourselves lies to make sense of our world and call it reality. We lie to ourselves about people, situations and “the way things are” and call it truth. These “lies” can be just simply

Unspoken expectations can ruin relationships of all kinds–and we all have them. Here’s how one of our coaching clients uncovered hers and created a deeper connection with someone important to her in the process… Judith was wound up in a tangled web of anger and

While we don’t like labels, the term avoider stood out to us when we read a recent question from a reader… Here’s her question (used with her permission)… “So, my husband is now an atheist although he went to seminary years ago. He wants to

Do you avoid or do you engage when something critical needs to be talked about? Here’s the truth… We tend to put people in categories, groups or turn them into this kind of person or that kind of person as a way to get some

For a lot of couples, even though there might be love between them, there’s still an underlying tension or distance that seems to always be there. The fights, arguments and disagreements just seem to erupt out of no where and neither person knows how to