How to Deal with a Moody Partner
I used to think I wanted an emotional man until I got one! After my divorce when Otto and I were first together 22 years ago, I remember feeling so loved and cared for in a way I had never felt before. But I also …
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Stopping the Drama Dance in Relationships
Even though I don’t consider myself a high drama person–in fact, most of the time, I think I’m pretty steady… I have had moments that I imagine I looked like a critical old, dour, school teacher with a pointy, accusatory finger. I was right–the other …
Handle Upsets, Triggers and Tricky Situations (with love and grace)
During this time of Covid-19 shut-down and re-opening, tempers are flaring. A friend was standing in line waiting to get into a store in 90 degree heat and two people started shouting over one of them getting too close and not wearing a mask. People …
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How to Get Someone to Change…
She called them the “whiny boys” and my wife Susie is finally warming up to them after all these years. What gives? How did I get her to see rock bands from the 70s and 80s like Boston, Journey, Foreigner and REO Speedwagon with new …
3 Ways to Love More and Find Peace While Sheltering in Place
During this health crisis, most of us have been told to shelter in place, hunker down and stay home…. While this is a wise move to halt the spread of the virus… Being in close quarters with your loved ones can be challenging, to say …
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The Root Cause of ALL Anger
Frankly, I’m just embarrassed when I look back on all those times when I used to get so angry… I’m not so angry anymore. In fact, you could say I’m a changed man but there have been times in my life where my outbursts of …
What Being Angry Taught Me That Made Love More Possible
I had only been married to my first husband for less than a year when I taught him it wasn’t safe to be angry. Then, for the next 29 years until we divorced, I wanted him to show me some emotion and he just couldn’t. …
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Lies That Keep Us From Our Best Love and Life
A little known truth is that as humans, we often tell ourselves lies to make sense of our world and call it reality. We lie to ourselves about people, situations and “the way things are” and call it truth. These “lies” can be just simply …
A Case Study: 3 Ways to Uncover Unspoken Expectations
Unspoken expectations can ruin relationships of all kinds–and we all have them. Here’s how one of our coaching clients uncovered hers and created a deeper connection with someone important to her in the process… Judith was wound up in a tangled web of anger and …
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3 Ways to Deal With and Love an Avoider
While we don’t like labels, the term avoider stood out to us when we read a recent question from a reader… Here’s her question (used with her permission)… “So, my husband is now an atheist although he went to seminary years ago. He wants to …