Being critical is a habit and a coping strategy, usually learned early on. For some reason, it just comes natural for many of us to criticize, especially those we love, usually in the guise of “helping” them be better. (Translate that to doing what we want!) We’re not talking about feedback that’s asked for… We’re… [Read More]

As Carly sat at the kitchen table staring at her husband Frank with resentment, she wondered how things would ever be right in their marriage again. It had been years since she felt important to Frank because he was either focused on his phone watching a sports event or watching one on tv when he… [Read More]

When most people say they want there’s broken communication, there’s what they think is going on and there’s what’s really going on under the surface. Usually one person is not doing or saying what the other person thinks they should and one or both are angry, distant, and aloof. A perfect example of broken communication… [Read More]

It’s Otto writing today and I want to share a story about one of the most difficult days of my life in the hope that it will be helpful to you. Enjoy… It was about 9:30 pm on a Saturday night and my son was so filled with anger, upset and rage because of some… [Read More]

We all make what we might consider communication mistakes as we go through life and interact with others. It’s just inevitable because we’re all so different and look at the world so differently. As we’ve learned from our own relationships, as well as from our coaching clients, there are ways to communicate that invite love… [Read More]

Expectations are sneaky. Usually we don’t even realize that we have them until we’re disappointed that something didn’t turn out the way we thought it should or someone didn’t say or do something we thought they should. And why is this a problem? Expectations are really thoughts that we’ve made into a “thing.” It’s a… [Read More]