Relationship Control Issues: Too Controlling or Being Controlled?
Control issues can cripple a relationship. Here are 3 new ways to see control so you can get out of the struggle and move toward love…
Understanding the Battle for Control in Relationships
One of the biggest stumbling blocks to a happy, healthy relationship is the subtle or not-so-subtle battle for control. Control can be summed up as simply as an attempt to get your needs met. And we make up all the different ways to get our …
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A Case Study: 3 Ways to Uncover Unspoken Expectations
Unspoken expectations can ruin relationships of all kinds–and we all have them. Here’s how one of our coaching clients uncovered hers and created a deeper connection with someone important to her in the process… Judith was wound up in a tangled web of anger and …
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Differences and Expectations (and How They Screw Up Relationships)
One of the biggest challenges in relationships is always the fact that we’re different from each other–with different beliefs, experiences and ways of doing things. Because of these differences, we can set up expectations of the other people in our lives that make connection, love …
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How to Recognize Your Blind Spots
Years ago, when Susie’s car was new, she merged into traffic on a busy interstate highway and almost ran another car off the road because she wasn’t aware of the car’s blind spot. She learned pretty quickly where the blind spot was and that she …
Your Love Blind Spots that Keep Love Away
We all have love blind spots that keep us from having more of the love and the life that we want. It’s always what we can’t see that’s going on underneath the surface in our lives… That we’re creating, that we’re thinking, that we’re believing… …
3 ways to bounce back when life treats you unfairly
When her alarm rang at 6:30, Cassey groaned and didn’t want to get up. What in the world was going on? After all, she wasn’t 16 anymore and wasn’t arguing with her mom about how much time she had before she had to get up …
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When life treats you unfairly
One of the tricks to keeping hope alive and staying open to possibilities when life has treated you unfairly is to know that in almost every situation it’s not personal. No matter how difficult, how upsetting, how much you wish things were different… In almost …
How Your Communication Builds or Destroys Trust
It’s a fact that communication builds or destroys trust in every moment. One of the tricks to building trust instead of destroying it is this… Be clear in your communication. *Be as clear as you can when you’re talking or writing… *Be as clear as …
Resentments that hold us back in love and life…
Resentments are born from large or small events when we feel like we’ve been treated unfairly. Someone slights us or does something so grossly mean that we feel blindsided–and we hold onto that hurt, sometimes for years. There seem to be two kinds of resentments: …