I had only been married to my first husband for less than a year when I taught him it wasn’t safe to be angry. Then, for the next 29 years until we divorced, I wanted him to show me some emotion and he just couldn’t. …
What Being Angry Taught Me That Made Love More Possible Read More »
It’s not just little girls who dream of a happily-ever-after kind of love. Almost everyone wants to experience a great relationship or marriage that includes keeping love growing. The wonderful feelings that come with connection and passion are undeniable. And, once you have love like …
Valentine’s Day is one day that’s fraught with expectations, celebrations, disappointments and love and has always been that way since we were in grade school exchanging those paper valentines, putting them into decorated boxes. Whether you’re in an intimate relationship or not… This holiday can …
Hands down, the worst day of my life was not when my father died on my birthday. It wasn’t the day we filed bankruptcy because of all bills that remained after our son was born with health problems. It wasn’t either of the two times …
The Silent, Lingering Effects of Divorce: Divine Gift or Cruel Joke? Read More »
Saying what’s on your mind seems like a good idea but is it? Here Susie and Otto tell Tori’s story and give 3 valuable communication tips…
A little known truth is that as humans, we often tell ourselves lies to make sense of our world and call it reality. We lie to ourselves about people, situations and “the way things are” and call it truth. These “lies” can be just simply …
Unspoken expectations can ruin relationships of all kinds–and we all have them. Here’s how one of our coaching clients uncovered hers and created a deeper connection with someone important to her in the process… Judith was wound up in a tangled web of anger and …
A Case Study: 3 Ways to Uncover Unspoken Expectations Read More »
All too often, there’s fuzzy, unclear communication that’s hard to figure out with those we love… Then we’re shocked and upset when our relationships aren’t as close and as loving as we would like them to be. Also there’s usually a lot of blame flying …
One of the Big Pitfalls of Fuzzy, Unclear Communication Read More »
While we don’t like labels, the term avoider stood out to us when we read a recent question from a reader… Here’s her question (used with her permission)… “So, my husband is now an atheist although he went to seminary years ago. He wants to …
Do you avoid or do you engage when something critical needs to be talked about? Here’s the truth… We tend to put people in categories, groups or turn them into this kind of person or that kind of person as a way to get some …
