Joyce buried her face in her hands, wondering how to stop the constant criticism she heard inside her head. The harsh, loud, critical voice of her inner critic was relentless. For Joyce, like most of us, she has two voices in her head: –The calm, …
Dealing with a critical partner and your particular “Criticism Dance” can be a challenge. Here are some general truths about the critical partner…
In relationships of all kinds, the conflict of independence-dependence can be one of the stickiest issues that people have to deal with. Since we’re all so different, each of us has a greater or lesser desire for freedom and independence and that’s where the “rub” …
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Earlier this month, we wrote about “What to Do When You Think Your Partner is a Bully”… And since that sparked more discussion, we wanted to share some of those ideas with you. Usually we think of a bully as using aggression to get what …
Do you have to work on a relationship to make it a good one and keep it that way? Here’s a great question someone asked awhile ago on this topic that we thought was worth chewing on a bit… “You hear many people say that …
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When we asked this question awhile ago in a survey… “What’s the biggest question you have about how to create more love, passion and connection in your relationship and your life?” Many wanted to know what to do about their relationship getting stale and growing …
Most people see compromise as a good thing but what if the act of compromising kills love and passion instead? While compromising may be what happens naturally when there’s conflict, it’s how you both see the compromise that decides whether you get closer or pull …
Connie was fed up with her live-in boyfriend Paul trying to take over her life. She felt intimidated by his intellect and bullied by his “logical” opinions for why something should or shouldn’t be done. She seemed to freeze in what became arguments, not able …
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If you’ve ever driven a car, you know what we’re talking about… You’re driving along and want to switch lanes. You look in your rear view mirror, you don’t see another car so you put your blinker on and pull over. Just then you are …
One of the biggest disagreements Otto had with a previous partner is when he used the words, “I don’t care” in response to her question. She’d get furious, accusing him of not caring enough to answer her with an opinion. He’d get frustrated because he …
