I had only been married to my first husband for less than a year when I taught him it wasn’t safe to be angry. Then, for the next 29 years until we divorced, I wanted him to show me some emotion and he just couldn’t. …
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Saying what’s on your mind seems like a good idea but is it? Here Susie and Otto tell Tori’s story and give 3 valuable communication tips…
A little known truth is that as humans, we often tell ourselves lies to make sense of our world and call it reality. We lie to ourselves about people, situations and “the way things are” and call it truth. These “lies” can be just simply …
Unspoken expectations can ruin relationships of all kinds–and we all have them. Here’s how one of our coaching clients uncovered hers and created a deeper connection with someone important to her in the process… Judith was wound up in a tangled web of anger and …
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All too often, there’s fuzzy, unclear communication that’s hard to figure out with those we love… Then we’re shocked and upset when our relationships aren’t as close and as loving as we would like them to be. Also there’s usually a lot of blame flying …
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While we don’t like labels, the term avoider stood out to us when we read a recent question from a reader… Here’s her question (used with her permission)… “So, my husband is now an atheist although he went to seminary years ago. He wants to …
Do you avoid or do you engage when something critical needs to be talked about? Here’s the truth… We tend to put people in categories, groups or turn them into this kind of person or that kind of person as a way to get some …
For a lot of couples, even though there might be love between them, there’s still an underlying tension or distance that seems to always be there. The fights, arguments and disagreements just seem to erupt out of no where and neither person knows how to …
Control issues can cripple a relationship. Here are 3 new ways to see control so you can get out of the struggle and move toward love…
One of the biggest challenges in relationships is always the fact that we’re different from each other–with different beliefs, experiences and ways of doing things. Because of these differences, we can set up expectations of the other people in our lives that make connection, love …
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