One of the biggest stumbling blocks to a happy, healthy relationship is the subtle or not-so-subtle battle for control. Control can be summed up as simply as an attempt to get your needs met. And we make up all the different ways to get our […]
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Years ago, when Susie’s car was new, she merged into traffic on a busy interstate highway and almost ran another car off the road because she wasn’t aware of the car’s blind spot. She learned pretty quickly where the blind spot was and that she
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We all have love blind spots that keep us from having more of the love and the life that we want. It’s always what we can’t see that’s going on underneath the surface in our lives… That we’re creating, that we’re thinking, that we’re believing…
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One of the tricks to keeping hope alive and staying open to possibilities when life has treated you unfairly is to know that in almost every situation it’s not personal. No matter how difficult, how upsetting, how much you wish things were different… In almost
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Resentments are born from large or small events when we feel like we’ve been treated unfairly. Someone slights us or does something so grossly mean that we feel blindsided–and we hold onto that hurt, sometimes for years. There seem to be two kinds of resentments:
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Lying to to yourself (especially when you can’t see it) is one of the biggest obstacles to truly connecting with the people in your life. Lying to yourself either about how things really are or how you think they are (when they’re not that way)
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Most people think that the worst kind of lying is when someone else lies to you… They do something really bad to you and they lie about it… *Having an affair *Stealing money from you *Taking credit for something that shouldn’t be theirs to take
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How do you weather the storms in your relationship? We all have them in one way or another but… What do you do when you’re in the middle of them or they’re so frequent you wonder if your relationship will survive? A few days ago
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When people say they’re in a stormy relationship, there’s usually a lot of finger-pointing and the blame game is alive and well. They look at each other as the problem, pulling back and keeping their hearts closed. It’s like they go through life putting up
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Is your gut instinct always right in relationships? If it’s truly your “gut” speaking, then it’s worth paying attention to. But how do you know the difference between when your gut instinct is trying to get your attention–and when it’s your fear of the past
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