Improve Communication

Awhile ago, we asked the people who get our newsletter to tell us about the dumb relationship questions they’ve been asked or had been asked of them that killed passion and love–and boy were their answers eye-opening. In many cases, these dumb questions or statements […]

Finding yourself in a codependent relationship, whether it’s your first one or a repeating pattern, can certainly be filled with stress, confusion, uncertainties, regrets, and even shame. When you finally see that you’re in one, you usually realize that you want to get out of

Have you ever witnessed an interaction between two people that just blew you out of the water? We did on a return trip from a fabulous Florida vacation and the interaction we saw was so good, so powerful and such a great example of how

Recently I had a burst of insight… I was in the middle of one of my “I-know-what’s-right-for-Otto” thoughts as he was telling me a plan he was hatching… And just as quickly, another thought came rushing in… “Oh, wait a minute! Otto’s idea may be

Suddenly she got quiet. Then she got curious. Her name is Rebecca and she is a smart, funny, intelligent, budding marathon runner and I didn’t mean to make her upset. I just wanted to show her how she was lying to herself and didn’t even

Something happened to me at the car wash last weekend that that made me think I was going a little crazy. What happened, which I’ll share in a second, was so eye-opening about just how easy and how often we get something wrong that we

Who’s to blame or the “problem” in your relationship? Is it you? Your partner? Your in-laws? Something or someone else? If you’re like most people, your answer is probably pretty quick and definite… When you are having challenges in your relationship or marriage, it’s pretty

A bad mood, especially when it happens a lot, can threaten the health of any relationship. Here are a couple of instances that show common ways most of us deal with this in our partner… A few days ago Sarah came into the kitchen where

Being critical is a habit and a coping strategy, usually learned early on. For some reason, it just becomes natural for many of us to criticize, especially those we love, usually in the guise of “helping” them be better. (Translate that to doing what we

People-pleasing is often so unconscious that we don’t know we’re damaging our relationships. Here’s why it’s important to recognize and stop it…