Expectations–We all have them. We have expectations of ourselves that can sound limiting like this… –“I could never do that! That’s above my paygrade!” Or our expectations of ourselves can run on the positive side like this… –“Doing that will be a piece of cake […]
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I like to challenge my own thinking and my own beliefs to see how solid my beliefs are. I did this recently when my friend posted a statement on his Facebook profile that said… “As a Possibility…Expectations Are the Root of All Problems.” Is this
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Marsha knew she needed to have a better attitude toward her husband because she was more often than not angry with him… But she couldn’t seem to find it. The “story” that constantly ran in her head sounded something like this… “He’s a good guy,
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Here’s Susie’s true confession and insights that may help you when you feel disappointed with others and you’re not getting your needs met… ____________________ Someone very close to me had been going through one of life’s big transitions and she didn’t seem to want my
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There was about a two week window of time after I told my first wife I was leaving her that was totally real, raw and vulnerable. Most of the time, I’d just as soon forget all the stuff that happened before (and after) that caused
Vulnerability in Love and Life– A Good Thing or Something Else? By Otto Collins Read More »
Many of us grow up thinking that “vulnerable” is a dirty word and a sign of weakness. We’re taught we have to protect ourselves and be safe from physical and emotional harm by holding back our true feelings. We don’t want to hurt the other
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As Judy mulled over what her sister had said, she felt hurt and very angry. In planning a family reunion on zoom, her sister who Judy had always been close to… Abruptly told Judy that she didn’t care what happened at the reunion and left
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Have you or your partner ever used these phrases and then expected the other person to talk about a subject… “You should have. . .” “You could have . . .” “Why didn’t you . . .” “You never (or always)…” and “If only you’d
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As the paralyzing fear of confrontation built inside her, Paula found herself once again lying to her husband. She knew it was wrong, but couldn’t stop doing what she’d done her whole life with everyone she’d been close to. When she sensed the other person
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Sometimes and in some situations, it IS uncomfortable opening up about your feelings–to yourself as well as to other people. You may not even want to feel certain feelings–but you do. Whether it’s that you love someone, have fallen out of love with someone, there’s
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