In the USA, our government is locked in a shutdown that’s affecting millions with no movement in sight toward an agreement.
Both sides are holding fast to what they believe is “right” and while we don’t have a magic wand that will “fix” this current government shutdown…
We can see how this situation is eerily similar to challenges between individuals in love relationships.
Two people get locked in as adversaries and they don’t budge when it doesn’t have to be that way.
It’s so easy to have a breakdown when you lose sight of the true goal of your relationship or when you become committed to a way of seeing things that puts the other as the enemy.
Anytime you refuse to see the other person as having something important to say, an outlook that’s valuable or worthwhile, you’ve got a problem.
–>Here’s a way to get back to trusting and loving<–
If you want to reconnect as a couple…
If you want to have lasting love…
If you want to simply get-along…
One of the most important things you can do is to get on the same team so you’re both moving in the same direction.
Assuming you care about each other…
Assuming you want to be together…
Assuming you want to have more love between you…
One of the true tricks to getting on the same team (especially when you’re not) is to reconnect as a couple.
Reconnecting happens when you start in THIS moment and find the “overlap” or the places where the two of you can agree, see things the same way, have the same goal or want the same thing.
The idea behind reconnecting assumes there’s a connecting point. Something you both want.
Something important.
Something worth moving towards or something worth railing against.
Or the place of re-connection could turn out to be as simple as deciding to be friends again or at least not enemies and seeing where that leads.
Take it one moment at a time and make a choice in that moment to open to listening as a friend and looking for that place where you can come together in love.