Recently I had a burst of insight… I was in the middle of one of my “I-know-what’s-right-for-Otto” thoughts as he was telling me a plan he was hatching… And just as quickly, another thought came rushing in… “Oh, wait a minute! Otto’s idea may be …
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Suddenly she got quiet. Then she got curious. Her name is Rebecca and she is a smart, funny, intelligent, budding marathon runner and I didn’t mean to make her upset. I just wanted to show her how she was lying to herself and didn’t even …
Something happened to me at the car wash last weekend that that made me think I was going a little crazy. What happened, which I’ll share in a second, was so eye-opening about just how easy and how often we get something wrong that we …
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Who’s to blame or the “problem” in your relationship? Is it you? Your partner? Your in-laws? Something or someone else? If you’re like most people, your answer is probably pretty quick and definite… When you are having challenges in your relationship or marriage, it’s pretty …
One of the most common problems in relationships is something so simple, yet can be so difficult at the same time. It’s the ability to say “no” without feeling like you are “hurting” the other person–and being okay with it without all the guilt that …
A bad mood, especially when it happens a lot, can threaten the health of any relationship. Here are a couple of instances that show common ways most of us deal with this in our partner… A few days ago Sarah came into the kitchen where …
Many of us suffer from the addiction called “Black and White Thinking” but don’t see it or don’t realize all the trouble it causes. Black and white thinking is “either-or” thinking. It’s thinking there is only one option and not being open to hearing another… …
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One of the ways to resolving control dramas in relationships is to see “control” as the illusion it really is. Control is completely made up in the minds of the people involved. Here’s the thing… Control dramas in relationships come in all shapes and sizes …
Misunderstandings are so common in relationships and also can be so deadly. Randy had been searching for a new job off and on for awhile and he seemed to be in turmoil about what kind of job he even wanted. Sally, his girlfriend for the …
Whether you’ve been a habitual people-pleaser or not… Setting healthy boundaries in a way the other person can hear you and will actually accept them can be tricky. But here’s what’s even trickier… You second-guess yourself about the line you’re attempting to draw. All kinds …
