Chuck and Janice argued all the time and often over small things like turning off the lights or when to run the dishwasher. They were both miserable but they didn’t know how to stop fighting and start loving again. The truth is that it didn’t […]
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One of the tricks to finding a better way to resolve conflict than compromising is to pay attention to what’s inside you and be open to seeing something new. So often, when there’s conflict, it feels like you have to compromise where one person is
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It can really be confusing when you feel something just isn’t right but you’re not sure whether to trust your gut instincts feeling–or not. So you might pull away to guard yourself from what might happen without really knowing the truth or … You might
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Would you risk your life to shake hands with a total stranger? Last week we did and here’s why… We had only met him two minutes earlier and as Christian reached out to shake our hands, during Coronavirus or not… After what had just happened
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I’m sad to say, I can’t even relate to the pain, fear and worry that most people of color have had to deal with in my lifetime. I grew up in a white, middle class family and neighborhood where we had steaks on the grill
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No one should ever have to die like George Floyd did last week. After looking at the video countless times of Floyd there on the asphalt pavement with that Minneapolis Police officer’s knee on his neck… There’re no two ways about it. He was murdered.
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I used to think I wanted an emotional man until I got one! After my divorce when Otto and I were first together 22 years ago, I remember feeling so loved and cared for in a way I had never felt before. But I also
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If you’re one of those people who thinks relationships are HARD WORK…. And creating the love you want is REALLY HARD WORK… My answer is… Compared to what? A few weeks ago I had a coaching client tell me that (for her) it was really
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As we all know by now–social distancing requires that we keep ourselves six feet apart just to stay safe in this Covid world. Here’s what’s interesting… Even before this virus hit, so many people tried to keep it safe in their relationships and in their
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Even though I don’t consider myself a high drama person–in fact, most of the time, I think I’m pretty steady… I have had moments that I imagine I looked like a critical old, dour, school teacher with a pointy, accusatory finger. I was right–the other
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