As Carly sat at the kitchen table staring at her husband Frank with resentment, she wondered how things would ever be right in their marriage again. It had been years since she felt important to Frank because he was either focused on his phone watching […]
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Finding yourself in a codependent relationship, whether it’s your first one or a repeating pattern, can certainly be filled with stress, confusion, uncertainties, regrets, and even shame. When you finally see that you’re in one, you usually realize that you want to get out of
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I’d been raised by parents who lived through the Great Depression and although I never felt deprived, we were taught thrift and saving for the future. Frugality was part of my DNA, even during the 30 years I was married to my previous husband who
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Several years ago, my sister, two cousins and I took the train from Richmond, Virginia to New York City for our yearly “cousin adventure.” We had purchased tickets ahead of time for the Carole King show, “Beautiful,” a 911 walking tour, our hotel and of
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Have you ever witnessed an interaction between two people that just blew you out of the water? We did on a return trip from a fabulous Florida vacation and the interaction we saw was so good, so powerful and such a great example of how
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Recently I had a burst of insight… I was in the middle of one of my “I-know-what’s-right-for-Otto” thoughts as he was telling me a plan he was hatching… And just as quickly, another thought came rushing in… “Oh, wait a minute! Otto’s idea may be
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Suddenly she got quiet. Then she got curious. Her name is Rebecca and she is a smart, funny, intelligent, budding marathon runner and I didn’t mean to make her upset. I just wanted to show her how she was lying to herself and didn’t even
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Something happened to me at the car wash last weekend that that made me think I was going a little crazy. What happened, which I’ll share in a second, was so eye-opening about just how easy and how often we get something wrong that we
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Here’s a quick story about something that happened this week that has nothing to do with relationships but has EVERYTHING to do with solving relationship and other problems. Our new book, BIG FAT LOVE: The Book of Possibilities comes out in 9 days and I
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Who’s to blame or the “problem” in your relationship? Is it you? Your partner? Your in-laws? Something or someone else? If you’re like most people, your answer is probably pretty quick and definite… When you are having challenges in your relationship or marriage, it’s pretty
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