Are most people making up problems where there aren't any?
Our article "Should You Trust Your Gut Instincts" sparked a lot of interest because whether to trust intuition or not is a big issue for a lot of people.
One woman wrote to tell us her story and with her permission, we'll summarize what she said here, along with our answer to her question...
"Clare" wrote that her gut instincts concerning her boyfriend of 15 months were accurate. She found out he was having a secret relationship with an old girlfriend the whole time they were together.
She said that they weren't having a physical affair but they were reminiscing about their special times in the past together.
They made a pack to keep their relationship secret from her because he knew when Clare found out about it, he would have to give up his secret monthly get-togethers and erotic texts from his ex.
Clare told us that this man always shamed her when she asked if he was seeing anyone, like there was something wrong with her because she couldn't trust him all the way.
She said the outcome of all this is that she broke up with him. This secret he was keeping from her was the last straw in 50+ incidents with other women over their time together.
She asked us this question about when to trust intuition...
"Do you and Otto lean towards the idea that most people are making up problems where there aren't any? In that case I wouldn't call that intuition or the gut. I would call that projection or something else. The gut instincts are telling you the truth, and most people in my opinion do not trust this soul guiding information."
Here's our answer and some more ideas about when to trust intuition and when to ignore those voices inside...
There is no one-size-fits-all answer to this question but here's our take on it...
There is a big difference between listening to your mind chatter and made-up stories and listening to your inner "knowing" that this is your next step in life.
In our experience from years of coaching, the people who make up problems where there aren't any know somewhere inside that is what's going on.
They can either choose to keep believing a made-up reality that continues to hurt them or they can choose to recognize that their thinking is the cause of their angst and make another choice to be present in the moment.
Like Claire, the people who get very clear signs from their gut instincts that a relationship isn't what it seems end up taking action from a deep sense of knowing and in a very calm way.
The truth is that when your mind settles, you can hear the wisdom that inside and trust that.
After Claire stopped believing and buying into the shame and guilt that were clouding her judgment, she knew what her next step was.
In fact, it isn't that she got past shame and guilt but rather she saw the illusion of shame and guilt for what it was and didn't buy into it any longer.
Claire chose to love herself in the best way possible by listening to her true intuitive voice.
How about you?
When have there been times in your own life when you have absolutely known to follow your inner wisdom and did just that?
And when have you known that you're just making it all up?
We all do both and it's up to us to listen to our deeper wisdom more of the time if we want a happier, easier life!