One of the tricks to using the right words with the people in your life is coming from a space of love instead of fear.
Okay, so what does that mean and how do you do it?
People often use their words unconsciously to argue and make the other person wrong instead of coming from a space of love, openness, and desire for deeper and better connection.
Just to be clear…The words we use and the way we communicate come from the thoughts we believe, pay attention to and make real.
Dr. Bill Pettit says this…
“It’s not about changing your thinking, it’s about using your feeling level as an indication of whether or not to pay attention to your thinking.”
So how do you know if you’re using the right words and paying attention to the right thoughts?
Very simply, the “right” words open hearts instead of shutting the others down.
You can ask yourself a couple of quick questions to find out…
Is the other person opening or closing more as you’re talking with them?
Are the stories you’re making up in your mind closing your heart or opening it?
When your heart is open, then you will say the “right” words.