As we all know by now–social distancing requires that we keep ourselves six feet apart just to stay safe in this Covid world.
Here’s what’s interesting…
Even before this virus hit, so many people tried to keep it safe in their relationships and in their lives and the reality is they weren’t able to be safe at all.
They kept themselves at a distance.
They held back and didn’t open themselves when connection was called for and was possible.
They didn’t open their hearts when doing so would have brought someone closer.
The big lesson here is…
It’s smart to keep a safe distance during something like Covid-19 but when it comes to your relationships..
There’s nothing to protect.
There’s nothing to defend except for the story that you make up about how you might get hurt.
When I have held back and distanced myself in relationships because of trying to keep from getting hurt or some other story I’d created….
It always turned out that I caused more pain for myself than if I’d been open enough to listen and be honest about what was inside me.
The “stories” that I made up about these relationships actually kept me from knowing what was true for me.
And this has been true with my coaching clients as well.
The late philosopher Jim Rohn once said this…
“The walls we build around us to keep sadness out also keeps out the joy.”
Yes, keep yourself physically safe but always remember that playing it safe in love and life doesn’t build connection and it doesn’t deepen love.
Playing it safe keeps out the joy.
Have you ever played it safe when you may have been better served to open your heart and go for something that you really wanted…
Either in a relationship or some other part of your life?
In a situation where you’ve played it safe instead of being open and honest, how might you have been able to do it differently?