Relationship Advice

One of the biggest questions for the two of us right now during this Covid epidemic, and maybe for you as well, is… How much “normal” activity do we engage in and what do we avoid for fear of getting the virus? Are the reservations […]

Chuck and Janice argued all the time and often over small things like turning off the lights or when to run the dishwasher. They were both miserable but they didn’t know how to stop fighting and start loving again. The truth is that it didn’t

I’m sad to say, I can’t even relate to the pain, fear and worry that most people of color have had to deal with in my lifetime. I grew up in a white, middle class family and neighborhood where we had steaks on the grill

No one should ever have to die like George Floyd did last week. After looking at the video countless times of Floyd there on the asphalt pavement with that Minneapolis Police officer’s knee on his neck… There’re no two ways about it. He was murdered.

If you’re one of those people who thinks relationships are HARD WORK…. And creating the love you want is REALLY HARD WORK… My answer is… Compared to what? A few weeks ago I had a coaching client tell me that (for her) it was really

Two or three work lifetimes ago, I was forced to go through hell for five straight days and there was nothing I could do about it. It wasn’t actual hell but it was a very strange and annoying period of time that mirrors exactly how

It’s Otto writing today and sometimes I’ll hear a song lyric, read a line in a book or hear something totally random on a TV show or on the Internet and it strikes me a little bit deeper than it ordinarily might. This happened to

Try as we might, we’re all terrible at predicting outcomes and relationship predictions in our lives–but we keep doing it. The problem is that we somehow think this will keep us safe, prepared for the worst or solve some problem in a backwards way but

For people who know me these days it’s probably hard to imagine me as a really angry person… But I was. Not all the time, but some of the time. Not just angry, but once in a while–bordering on rage and on a couple of

It’s Otto writing and I have a question for you… It’s a question that’s really important (especially in these crazy times we’re living in right now…) The question is… What are you trying to control in your life? Even if you aren’t aware of it,