One of the tricks to knowing what a deal breaker is in your relationships and life is to simply look at the reality of your relationships and life and there you have it…
No matter how much you are irritated, upset or angry about a situation or something someone is saying or doing or the way that someone treats you from time to time…
If you’re currently living with it…
If it’s present in your relationship…
If it’s present at work or anywhere in your life…
Then it’s not a deal breaker no matter how much you think it might be.
A deal breaker is something that’s clear, definite and an absolute “no” for you.
It comes from a deep part of you that just knows that this is a “no” at this time and when you acknowledge that “no” with love, you find yourself taking action.
So much of the time, something we think is a deal breaker really isn’t.
But it is something we like to fight, argue, get upset about and resist either with that other person or within our own private thoughts and experience.
The truth about ourselves and our decisions about the life we want really come down to this…
Is it a “yes” or a “no” for us.
When most people are considering whether something is a deal breaker or not, they get stuck in the “middle” or in limbo.
This middle is mulling over both sides of a situation but getting stuck in fear of taking action one way or another
The uncertainty and anxiety of the “middle” is where the resistance to the flow of life comes from.
That’s where the lies, entanglements and crazy-making happen in relationships.
That’s where the upsets at work happen.
That’s where life seems to come to a screeching halt and you go through it almost as if you’re half there and half not.
But here’s what we know about deal breakers and the middle…
When you ease up on yourself when you’re in the middle and when you don’t force yourself to keep mulling over whether something is a deal breaker or not…
When you tell yourself that it’s okay to not know until you do…
You’ll be able to connect with the wisdom inside you that absolutely knows.
That wisdom inside you knows what’s a “yes” and what’s a “no.”
Happier, easier, less stressful, more loving lives can be lived from that place and we invite you to experience it because it’s inside all of us!