No one should ever have to die like George Floyd did last week. After looking at the video countless times of Floyd there on the asphalt pavement with that Minneapolis Police officer’s knee on his neck… There’re no two ways about it. He was murdered. […]
In times like these… (From Otto) Read More »
I used to think I wanted an emotional man until I got one! After my divorce when Otto and I were first together 22 years ago, I remember feeling so loved and cared for in a way I had never felt before. But I also
How to Deal with a Moody Partner Read More »
If you’re one of those people who thinks relationships are HARD WORK…. And creating the love you want is REALLY HARD WORK… My answer is… Compared to what? A few weeks ago I had a coaching client tell me that (for her) it was really
The Truth VS Hard Work in Love and Life Read More »
As we all know by now–social distancing requires that we keep ourselves six feet apart just to stay safe in this Covid world. Here’s what’s interesting… Even before this virus hit, so many people tried to keep it safe in their relationships and in their
Playing it Safe in Relationships Read More »
Even though I don’t consider myself a high drama person–in fact, most of the time, I think I’m pretty steady… I have had moments that I imagine I looked like a critical old, dour, school teacher with a pointy, accusatory finger. I was right–the other
Stopping the Drama Dance in Relationships Read More »
During this time of Covid-19 shut-down and re-opening, tempers are flaring. A friend was standing in line waiting to get into a store in 90 degree heat and two people started shouting over one of them getting too close and not wearing a mask. People
Handle Upsets, Triggers and Tricky Situations (with love and grace) Read More »
Two or three work lifetimes ago, I was forced to go through hell for five straight days and there was nothing I could do about it. It wasn’t actual hell but it was a very strange and annoying period of time that mirrors exactly how
Blinded by Impossibilities Read More »
It’s Otto writing today and sometimes I’ll hear a song lyric, read a line in a book or hear something totally random on a TV show or on the Internet and it strikes me a little bit deeper than it ordinarily might. This happened to
From Otto: A REASON, A SEASON OR A LIFETIME Read More »
She called them the “whiny boys” and my wife Susie is finally warming up to them after all these years. What gives? How did I get her to see rock bands from the 70s and 80s like Boston, Journey, Foreigner and REO Speedwagon with new
How to Get Someone to Change… Read More »
Try as we might, we’re all terrible at predicting outcomes and relationship predictions in our lives–but we keep doing it. The problem is that we somehow think this will keep us safe, prepared for the worst or solve some problem in a backwards way but
Relationships Suffer Because We’re So Bad At THIS Read More »
