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How to confidently create communication that's open, honest, and emotionally connected...
(Anytime you want, with anyone you want)
In all of the relationship surveys we've conducted over the years, bad communication is one of the top reasons (if not the top reason) why couples break up or get divorced.
And when relationships crash and burn, it's very often because of one of 4 communication mistakes we talk about below.
The question is--How big of a problem is communication in your relationship?
Here are a few questions to ask yourself to find out...
- Do you wish you knew the right words to say to your partner or spouse BEFORE you said something that would cause the two of you to become disconnected and even more distant?
- Do you ever struggle to find the right words to say to your partner to explain yourself and your feelings?
- Do you find yourself in the middle of a fight with your partner and you don't know how or why it happened--or what to do about it?
- Do you want to feel more understood by your partner?
- Do you wish your spouse or partner would openly and honestly talk to you and not withdraw?
- Do you wish you could "Stop Talking On Eggshells" and feel like you could say anything to your partner without fear of what they were thinking, what they might say or how they might react?
- Do you wish your partner followed through on what they said they would do?
If you answered YES to any of the above questions, communication is definitely a problem in your relationship and believe us--you are not alone.
We know because we've been there ourselves...
Hi, it's Susie and Otto Collins and we're happily married Relationship coaches and authors.
If you feel like your relationship is suffering because you can't communicate...
You've come to the right place.
We've know how hard it can be to try to get your partner to understand your point of view when all you're doing is fighting, putting each other down or shutting each other out.
We know because we've been there in our previous marriages as well as in our marriage.
Before we got together, the two of us had been in marriages to other people that lasted for many years. After divorcing from our previous spouses, we found each other and discovered that our love was deeper and we were more connected than we ever had been in our previous relationships.
Since we could honestly say that we made just about every communication mistake there was in those previous relationships, we were determined not to make those same mistakes in our shiny, new relationship.
The truth is that we DID make those mistakes (and more) and it could have cost us our relationship if we hadn't been so determined to learn how to communicate for lasting love, to practice what we learned and then teach it to others.
Susie remembers when Otto's "tone of voice" triggered feelings of not being good enough inside her--and as a result, she became defensive and what he called "controlling." Then he'd get defensive and angry--rebelling against being "controlled."
Otto remembers feeling like he couldn't win an argument, just like with his previous wife and this went on and on.
Well you get the idea that it wasn't a pretty picture--and very damaging to our relationship.
With a lot of study, practice and trial and error, we've learned what to do to not get so defensive when our partner says or does something that triggers us so we can stay open to one another.
We've learned which words and phrases to say that open our partner instead of pushing him or her away--and which words help to regain our deep connection with one another.
We know that communication can make or break a relationship and we want you to benefit from what we've learned and practice everyday so you can have the love you've always wanted as well.
The truth is that we all make communication mistakes and if you can catch these mistakes early as you're about to make them, your communication will improve and you'll feel closer and more connected.
Over the past 17 years of studying, trying ideas out in our own marriage (falling down and getting back up again) and teaching about how to create a close, connected, loving and passionate relationship, we've discovered that there are six common communication mistakes that either make or break a relationship...
To give you a taste of what we mean, here are 4 big communication mistakes that you may be making right now, along with our suggestions for creating great communication..
4 BIG Communication Flops that kill love, passion and connection (faster than anything) and how to avoid them...
Communication Flop #1 You Do What We Call-- "Talking On Eggshells..."
Most people don't realize this but one of the biggest reasons intimacy breaks down is NOT conflict but rather it's AVOIDING the conflict. In our work, we call this "talking on eggshells"--and if you're going to create a closer connection, you have to stop doing it.
"Talking on eggshells" is when you're afraid to say what you're feeling because of your partner's reaction.
The two of you haven’t learned how to stop when there’s a problem and calmly look at it together and figure out how to resolve the issue without getting defensive and moving into gridlock.
We think of it as staying clean with each other: no withholds, no half-truths, no drama, just honestly thinking and talking it through.
Most people get fearful of what their partner might say, do or how they might react if they speak their truth and tell them what they really think or how they really feel. So they don't.
Holding back only creates resentment but you have to learn how to say it so your partner listens and understands.
Caution: Most people who decide they've "had it" with "talking on eggshells" and want to start exercising their personal power very often make another BIG communication mistake--they go overboard with their intention to "speak their truth" no matter what and actually become hostile, belligerent and un-cooperative.
This also does more harm than good to your relationship as you can imagine.
Communication Flop #2 Using Words That Kill the Love and Spark Instead of Words That Pull You Closer...
Many people are oblivious to the words they use (as well as their tone of voice) and don't realize that these words and phrases are said from habit (and past experiences) and are damaging their relationships.
Believe it or not, there are "magic" words and phrases that create closeness and connection--and there are words and phrases that push the two of you apart.
Take for instance a phrase that many of us use without thinking (that actually comes off as demanding and controlling) when we want to get our partner to do something or act in a specific way...
"You (or we) need to do _______"
Otto had a coaching client recently who said this to his wife in a coaching session and Otto pointed out to him that this was a statement not the question he thought it was.
In using those words, the man was assuming his partner wanted to do the same thing he wanted.
She didn't. In fact, she felt like she didn't have any say in what was being discussed and that her thoughts weren't important. Even if that wasn't this man's intention, that's the meaning his words conveyed.
On the surface, this seems like such a small, inconsequential thing but it isn't.
When communicating with your beloved (or anyone else in your life) you want to avoid using any words or language that kills openness and connection.
This man didn't do that.
Communication Flop #3 Making WRONG Assumptions Instead of Finding Out What Your Partner Really Thinks, Feels or Wants...
One of the biggest problems couples face, especially when they've been together for many years, is that they know everything there is to know about their partner. They drift into thinking they have nothing to say to one another except asking and answering logistical questions about their everyday lives--like "Can you pick up Sally at 5 today?"
They assume they know what their partner thinks, feels or wants when they really don't.
When this happens, boredom, distance and discontent seep into the relationship and one or both people wonder "Is this all there is?"
This kind of relationship is ripe for cheating and affairs but it doesn't have to be this way.
Our "5 Minute Magic" technique is a quick and easy way to get your partner to open up and willingly talk to you about what's important to them instead of just "going through the motions" in your relationship.
One part of the "5 Minute Magic" technique is to ask what we call "one question deeper."
In most people's intimate relationship, they let precious opportunities slip by to find out more about how their partner thinks and feels.
They instead, rush on to try to fix him or her--or even worse, tell them something about themselves and ignore what their partner just revealed.
What you want to do is communicate in loving, open ways that help your partner stay open to you and at the same time help both of you to feel respected and loved.
Asking questions from an open, loving place and going "one question deeper" than you normally would ask is a great way to find out more about what's going on in them and help the two of you get closer and feel much more connected.
Communication Flop #4 Getting Controlling and Manipulative to Try to Get the Love You Want Instead of "Getting Curious" or "Staying Open"...
One of the strangest phenomenon of relationships is how we try to manipulate or change the people we say we love.
We mistakenly think, "things would be so much better if they were only more like me" or "things would be so much better if they would do things the way I want..."
And then, in the name of love, we develop a whole variety of really interesting (and sometimes not-so-healthy) ways to manipulate, guilt-trip and persuade others to give us what we want even if it isn't necessarily what they want.
We do this and then we wonder why they "push back," rebel or resist opening to and loving us.
If you or your partner are accused of being controlling or manipulative, one way to get out of that communication minefield is switching your attention to being curious and open to what they want as well as what you want.
Most of us get controlling and manipulative when we don't think we have a choice in the situation, we think our partner won't do as we want and we think we won't get our way. When you commit to staying open and curious, your partner stays open and you both have choice.
Here's what you might not know...
When you stop doing the mistakes we just talked about and start doing what will bring you more of what you want, the possibilities for more love and deeper connection will be there.
When you begin experiencing the kind of deep, profound love that we know is possible for you, you'll start to think it's magic.
In fact, when some people begin making the shifts in their communication that we're talking about, they start to think that perhaps a "Miracle" may have happened to them.
You'll Call it a Miracle...
- When you and your partner start to talk openly and honestly when you've been shut down for years.
- When you start to feel heard, appreciated and understood (maybe for the first time ever)
- When you're able to say what's in your heart and your partner listens when they didn't use to.
- When you and your partner actually have fun together again.
- When the words you use help you and your partner come to an agreement instead of fighting.
- When you and your partner feel more romantic toward one another than you have for a long time.
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How To Get Your Partner, Spouse or Lover
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- One word you shouldn't say to your partner (or anyone else) when you are making a request of them and the one word you should say instead
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- The one thing you should always ask someone before you offer any kind of advice--this makes sure you are honoring them and you're also not doing something they don't want
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Just for fun, we think it might be helpful for you to ask yourself which of these things you'd like to happen in your relationship or marriage...
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♥ Romance gets rekindled
♥ Love gets deeper and stronger
♥ The fun comes back
♥ The spark gets reignited
♥ You feel more heard and listened to
♥ You feel more understood and appreciated
♥ You turn from being strangers into lovers again
♥ The passion, intimacy and sex gets hotter and more frequent
♥ You feel more adored, desired and cherished
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