3 Ways to Be More Positive

There’s a commercial on TV running now for a drug for psoriasis where the afflicted woman is constantly itching, smiling and saying she’s “fine.”

Often, when we think of being more positive, plastering a “smiley face” on a “bad” situation and saying we’re fine is what comes to mind.

That’s not what we’re talking about here…

So let’s back up a little…

Positivity and negativity are just two sides of our thinking that is manifesting in the moment.

And from believing that thinking comes feelings of security, peace, happiness or fear and dread.

We’ve discovered that to be more positive, it’s being willing to open to seeing that our beliefs about our thinking is what’s driving the bus in our lives.

So when you don’t take your thoughts so seriously, you don’t have to contend with negativity within yourself all the time.

Being positive just starts to happen more and more frequently.

Now don’t get us wrong…

We all have negative thoughts about people or situations that are not what we’d prefer…

But we’ve found that we don’t have to keep the negative spin and overwhelm going by holding onto those thoughts and attaching meaning to them.

For instance, take Fran who wanted to be more positive…

Her mother called her “Little Mary Sunshine” from a musical popular in the 1950’s so it was obvious that Fran was used to looking on the positive side of things.

But recently, her thoughts were increasingly negative and she blamed her husband.

When even the slightest upset happened, he reacted with fears of the worst possible scenario and talked about them incessantly.

In her mind, she called him “chicken little” who ran around saying, “The sky is falling” even when it wasn’t.

They got into arguments when she constantly tried to focus him into looking at the positive side of whatever it was.

The got into the “blame game.”

He said she was being unrealistic and she said he was always negative.

She was finding it difficult to keep her positive attitude until she realized one important thing…

She didn’t have to believe in his thoughts or take them on and she didn’t have to try to change him.

And she didn’t have to hold so tightly to her positive ones either.

Here are 3 ways to be more positive that she discovered…

1. Recognize that you have a choice

You have a choice in what thoughts you latch onto even though you might think you don’t.

Even though you can’t control your thoughts, you can choose where to direct your focus.

2. See the truth about your thinking.

Start to see that your thinking and your moods are always shifting and changing from moment to moment and therefore you don’t have to make such a big deal out of what you’re thinking and what’s going on in the moment.

If your moods (or anyones) are cyclical or ever-changing, it would seem only natural that positivity would be happening sometimes and negativity would be happening other times.

Again, the trick to learning how to be more positive is to simply notice that you don’t have to believe your negative thinking. Ever.

3. Allow yourself to settle so your wisdom comes through

When you get out of your own way and your circular thinking, you can be in uncomfortable situations in a different way. Since feelings come from your thinking that you believe in the moment, when you allow fear to melt away, you can have more of a sense of peace and calm.

And you’ll know what steps to take next.

To be more positive starts inside you and your willingness to see something new and different.

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